Are you a bench warmer?

She was screaming "Help me, please help me," as a man knocked her down to the ground and began punching her in the face.

There were many people who were watching this violent attack, but none of them helped or even called for help because they all thought someone else would do it.

You've probably heard stories similar to this one.

Some watched from inside a building, some watched from inside their vehicles and some even walked right past the attack, yet all of them failed to help in any way.

Each of them was shocked and unsure what to do.

They thought that someone else would help.

They live on the sidelines, as though life were a spectator sport to be watched but not engaged in.

They tend to have many regrets.

They feel that they never really lived life.

In a way they are right.

Unless you put your safety, your comfort or your life on the line for another, it's really hard to fully enjoy life.

You might ask, "But what can I do?"

Well, here are a couple of ways that you could help:

1) Get your phone and call for help. This is the least you can do.
If you can't see the numbers to dial it means your heart is beating too fast from witnessing the encounter.

To overcome this slowly take two or three deep breathes and your vision should improve or you could ask someone else to dial the number for you.

Even if you don't have a phone you could yell out 'I've called the police and they'll be here any minute.'

2) If you're in your car you could start the engine and drive towards the attacker with your high beam headlights on or you could honk your horn to attract attention.

You could throw a book or something heavy at the attacker as you drive past while honking your horn.

These actions to help save another person's life will place your life at risk, however there's nothing like the feeling of standing up for someone else.

This builds courage that can apply to anything else you do.

So are you on the sidelines in life, a bench-warmer, or are you engaging life in a full and meaningful way?

If not you'll need courage and here are two ways to gain it:

1) Start thinking creatively of many different ways that you could help someone.
Maybe the first time you'll help someone is by standing up for them when they are being bullied in a conversation.

2) You could also take an effective street self-defense course to build courage.
Unless the encounter involves a loved one or a friend, don't get involved physically, let the police handle it.

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Be strong,

Kubler Al


Kubler Al
Director of Training,
Cutting Edge Combat
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